Done

I'm giving myself a belated birthday present. I am no longer going to take on board peoples negative feed back on the way I live my life. 

I am done with worrying about what others think of the way I dress, I'm done with worrying about what others think of the way I parent, I'm done with worrying about what others think of my house,

I'm done with worrying about what others think of my marriage,   

I'm done with worrying about what others think of any of that. Of course opinions are like areseholes, and we all have them. Its just I am no longer going to be concerned if you think that I'm a bad mother for not making my child wear her coat on a cold day.

In the past I have been extremely guilty of worrying what others will will think. But the interesting thing is, when I look back its the people that I felt I had to change for are the ones that the friendship have dissolved. This isn't to say that all my current friends and I agree on everything. We don't, we aren't even all that similar its just what the people that really matter accept that while I may say/do/think things that are different to them I am basically a good person who is doing the best that I can. Because basically isn't that all of us?

I still believe in self improvment and personal grow I don't want to be stagnant like a rock. I am still interested in your opinions we may be able to have some interesting converations, you could teach me a thing or two. But I will not keep laying awake thinking "what will person X think if I say that, wear that, do that?" 

I need to do this for myself because frankly its exhausting always worrying what other might think or how they may critically judge me and I just dont have the time or energy to worry about if you think that I am some how less of a person because I chose to only serve sausages at the BBQ instead of steaks.

I encourage you all to do the same and lets all do what other mothers said "if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all".